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Our commitment to you does not end at the funeral.  Whether you feel comfortable speaking in a group or individually, we're always here to listen. If you wish to learn more about our bereavement services please contact Sister Pat Fesler at the funeral home at 330-792-2353. 

In Response to the Covid-19 outbreak, we are still here to help.

A Message from Sr. Pat Fessler, HM, Grief Support Specialist: 

"In these times of pain, sickness, fear and so much unsettledness, we need to more than ever reach out to God. Maybe now more than ever find a prayer style that works for you and put it into place. Find a prayer partner that you can share with and pray with via the phone, text or email. Every single one of us now have hearts that are breaking and crying and searching please don’t do it alone. Somehow through all of this we are going to become stronger and more faithful. Yesterday Dr. Amy Acton said “life is waking us up.” Yes, I think life is waking us up and helping us to look at what and who is really important. This is a time for families to really be there for each other. We have been a society that is so busy with work, sports etc that we don’t even have meals together, we don’t sit down and have a normal conversation. We are too busy running from here to there. It’s now time to stop and reevaluate what family, life and faith mean to us.  

I have more people than you can imagine telling me how this has heightened their grief. Not only their grief for the death of a loved one but for so much more in life. There are people all over the world who are dying and trying to bury their loved ones, people who have lost their jobs permanently, people who don’t know where the next meal is going to come from. I could go on and on. Now more than ever we need to reach out to people in love. Many of us are working from home, learning new ways to communicate to people, to teach our students and how do we keep our children busy when they are use to being on the go. Put your technology down for awhile and listen to those people that are in your home. What new things are you learning from them. Those that are grieving the death of a loved one are so lost and fearful that someone else they love is going to get sick or die. I am hearing my teens who have had a parent die say I am afraid my mom or dad is going to die and what is going to happen to me? What is going to happen to any of us and how are we going to journey through these uncharted waters some people alone and some with others at their side. This is our time to find new ways to connect and reach out in love.

Please, I beg you, don’t forget about your neighbor who is alone, old, your parents who live alone and are elderly, those people in nursing facilities that feel so isolated because they can’t see their family. What Can you do? Send thinking of you cards, notes, phone calls, pick up a dinner for someone. When you go to the grocery store call them and make sure they have everything they need. Sometimes that flower gift is all that is needed to bring a smile.  

We have so many health care workers, first responders, people that work in a grocery store those essential places that are needed to keep each of us going. When you are at the grocery store do you say thank you? Yesterday I thanked two checkout clerks and they looked at me strangely and said no one has said thank you. One clerk told me she has people coming in yelling at her because her hot counter is not open. Above all kindness and compassion is what we need as a world right now. Yes I say world because it is not only us in the United States going through this coronavirus it is EVERYONE. So what would Jesus say to us? What would Jesus do? What are we going to do?  

Above all, please everyone pray. I am available if I can be of help to anyone. I am working from home and hold all of you in prayer and in my heart. Please be safe and Gentle with You, your loved ones and all those you come into contact with."

Sister Pat Fesler, HM 

Grief Support Specialist Higgins-Reardon Funeral Homes

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Published: June 8, 2020 by Sr. Pat Fesler, HM

June 3, 2020
Since I wrote my last article on May 28, there has been so much unrest,
pain, grief and tears in this country, in this world. I think about every
person of color including white people and what injustice is saying to them.
We are all called to have faith in our hearts, to love no matter what color
and have compassion for our fellow brothers and sisters. Jesus did not say
you were the wrong color so I treat you unfairly no he reached out in love
and would expect us to do the same. I was talking to some friends last
night and we talked about how we put on fake smiles during this time but
instead our hearts are broken and inside the tears are flowing. What about
our children of all ages? What is this doing to them and what are they
thinking? The fear that must fill their hearts, fear that their parent,
grandparent even they themselves will get killed, and how are they going to
live their shattered lives and when some of them their parents have lost
everything. How are our children and teens of today interpreting what’s
going on in our country and our world? In the past what did they worry
about: sports, school, their friends and family but now their lives are filled
with fear just as ours as adults. What are the elderly thinking as all of this
is going on? They fear for their children and grandchildren and think back
on the life they built for them and are now finding so much being torn down
and destroyed. How many children, teens and parents go to bed crying
each night? So many hearts have been ripped in half and people are
questioning how do I put my heart, my life back together. None of us want
to live in fear. No we want to live in a country and world that is peaceful.
We are all outraged by the senseless killings of Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud
Arbery, George Floyd and the many others who have died. They, like
every single one of us have family and were living a life that needed to be
respected. What can we people of faith do to change the injustice that we
see going on throughout our world and country. My community, The
Sisters of the Humility of Mary just put a statement out on Racism and in
one place it says: “We pray that our hearts may be opened to hear the cries
of our black sisters and brothers, that we find the strength and courage to
respond to their call and find ways to create space for everyone to
breathe.” Yes, we all need to do our part with prayer, respect, compassion
and love. We need to ask the difficult question of each of us. What does
justice mean to me and how will it reflect in the way I live We all need to

answer that question for ourselves. Our answers will probably be different
but change is different for each and every one of us.
Do we want our children to live in fear every day? I don’t think so. I know I
don’t want my niece and nephews to be fearful every time they go out the
door and worry if their dads, moms, grandparents and others they know are
going to die or get hurt. We are each sisters and brothers in Christ and
Jesus says to each of us stretch out your arms and welcome the stranger.
She or he will love you in return.
The past ten days we have spent so much time and energy on the protests
that the coronavirus seemed to be pushed aside. However, please
remember all those that are in pain from this virus. Whether we know
someone or not, I can tell you there are so many people grieving and that
includes children. Again the pain and tears are so much a part of peoples’
hearts. Sometimes I wonder can they separate the virus from the protests.
In the pain, no matter what it is, we need to stop and take in the beauty of
God’s creation. Breathe and take some time for each of us to heal.
Whatever you do; Be Gentle with You and with Others.

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Because we care about the well being of every family we serve, you will receive continuing care and support through our Stepping Stones program after the funeral. You can sign up and receive monthly grief and recovery newsletters to appear in your email inbox, full of great information, stories, poems, and inspirational quotes that will help you through this difficult time. 

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Stepping Stones to a Better Tomorrow For Kids

Children's grief group meets once a month at Zion Lutheran Church in Cornersburg. For further information, contact Sr. Pat Fesler, Bereavement Coordinator. 

For further information, please contact:

Sister Pat Fesler, H.M. Grief Support Specialist 

Higgins-Reardon Funeral Home


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